Remember Your ABCs
Whether you’re moving your kids from one activity to another or from one stage in life to the next, transitions can be full of stress. If you can stay calm and intentional, your child will have an easier time remaining focused on what s/he needs to do to move through the transition. Here are two practices that can help you with transitions, both big and small.
A is for ATTENTION – when things get too busy or chaotic, or we just don’t know what to do, we can always just stop what we’re doing to pay attention. Pause and focus on the situation — it will help you get grounded
B is for BREATHE – paying attention to our breathing can help us become grounded and calm, a better state for compassion, connection, and making decisions.
C is for CHOOSE- breathing mindfully can help you make a more intentional and thoughtful choice about the next step.
Get In The Space!
Transitions can be tough on even the best of us, but the better prepared we are the better we do. To help your child approach a big transition, help make the experience as familiar as possible in advance.
Practice: Transition Prep
- Give your child age- appropriate information about the actual transition in front of him so he starts to form accurate expectations. Some children may want talk about what’s to come while others may want to look at pictures with you.
- Describe the process, step-by-step so he can ask clarifying questions, prepare himself mentally and anticipate any feelings. This will help to ease the anxiety, limit surprises, and avoid frustration.
- Spend time in the environment ahead of time — go visit the school. The key is for the child to feel comfortable in the actual room or building he will be in so he can access that comfortable feeling when he school begins.